The Sweet Spot
The notion of self-care is no longer just the latest trend. It continues to be a major topic of conversation and one of the most commonly used hashtags on most social media platforms. Since embarking on my own self-care journey, I have been transparent about my personal struggles. Despite my commitment to the concept, I found that the oversimplified solutions for self-care simply did not work for me. While I agree that some of these activities are great for general well-being, I discovered that my journey required much more than the surface level feel-good moments. They did not support my goal of creating a sustainable strategy that becomes a lifestyle and not a routine requiring intentional planning.
After stumbling through a few hiccups over the last few months, I believe I have finally found my sweet spot. Gaining a richer understanding of the distinction between self-indulgence and self-care has made being mindful of my needs much easier. Instead of aiming for short-term relief, I am intentionally focusing on behaviors having a lasting positive imprint. And I am loving myself by purposely sustaining the activities that nurture my mind, body and soul. Scheduling monthly self-care has been replaced with ritualizing acts of personal care into my daily routine, regardless of how small.
Life in general has been extremely heavy for a while now. The emotional weight of a global pandemic, unexpected losses and repeated instances of police brutality is difficult to carry. But while I too endure the weight of it all, I also understand the heightened importance of making myself a priority. For me, this means powering off the devices, soaking up sunshine and enjoying quality time with loved ones. I have been relishing in long walks, leisurely outdoor dining and scenic drives. I am blessed to have a walking trail which begins in my backyard and ends under a massive old oak tree facing the water. This has become my favorite spot to read, meditate or catch a sunset while chatting with my youngest son.
I am emancipated from the self-defeating need to constantly be busy and have embraced the exquisiteness of doing nothing at all. I am finally learning to live and love myself in the present, not on a schedule. I challenge you to give yourself permission to do the same. Put yourself first and do whatever is necessary to preserve your emotional well-being consistently. Life happens every day whether you show up for it or not. Find your sweet spot and love on yourself every day, not just on Self-Care Sunday.