Reflections
As the sun sets on another year, like most, I find myself reflecting on my triumphs and failures. For 2021, I was resolved to chase joy; to intentionally pursue more of the experiences that make me happy. In that pursuit, I finally met the real Sophia and realized the greatest level of peace I have experienced as an adult. I am leaving 2021 with absolutely no anxiety or regrets. Every heartbreak and belly deep laugh were welcomed lessons.
As you step into 2022, here are a few things to consider for your journey:
Get comfortable going out alone. The discomfort of going out alone can cause you to miss out on new experiences. Date yourself. Start with something simple like lunch and before you know it, solo fine-dining will be a regular part of your self-care routine.
It is okay to show weakness. No one should be expected to carry the weight of trying to do it all and be it all for any grown person. It is simply too much for any one person to carry. It takes strength to remain open to moments of weakness and uncertainty. Feel what you need to, but do not hold on to it because it will become toxic and consume you.
Maintaining relationships where you are not fully valued is a painful way to exist. Set boundaries and do not relax them for anyone who does not want to give you their best. Put space between you and people who do not support you or reciprocate your efforts. Be comfortable saying no without explanation and stop saying yes to things or people out of guilt or obligation.
I am finding my stride and it feels oh so good. Each step I take is more confident as I learn to fully love and embrace my authentic self. Silence has been the only response from those who do not understand or support me; the ones whose only concern is their loss and not what I have gained. I will not allow their disapproval to make me miss a beat. I am no longer seeking love or acceptance outside of myself. My validation comes from within.
I am not the same person I was a year ago, and that awareness brings me joy. I am proud of the woman I am now, and I am already proud of the one I am becoming. I am so excited about how much more there still is for me to learn. People pleasing is no longer an option. My primary goal is to live a life that belongs to me; one that does not require me to shrink or deny any aspect of myself to make others feel comfortable. I am ready to greet 2022 and continue with my deliberate pursuit of joy.