It Hurts to Heal

We sometimes stay in situations much longer than we should because we’re unwilling to let go of what we hoped it would be.  Hurting is a part of the healing process and at times, despite the clarity of the imminent outcome, we hold on because we’re afraid to walk through the pain of letting go.  As a result, we wait – hoping, praying that somehow the inevitable will miraculously transform into the possibility of something else.  We accept excuses we shouldn’t and, to rationalize our failure to act, we may even create justifications for behaviors that go unexplained. So, why is it so difficult to free ourselves of toxic situations and allow healing to begin?

Healing isn’t an intellectual process.  It’s not always possible to arrive at a logical conclusion as to why, despite our best efforts, things didn’t go as we’d hoped.  Each of us has experienced something so profound that it didn’t allow us to go back to who we once were.  While it’s perfectly normal to feel hurt, confused or even upset, understand that no one is exempt from this emotional rollercoaster.  Learn to embrace these experiences as life’s way of pushing continuous growth and seize the opportunity to move forward into a better, stronger and wiser version of yourself.    

While we all have an idea of what we want our life story to be, an unexpected chapter doesn’t necessarily mean a bad story.  Be grateful for each stage as it unfolds and use every hurt and disappointment as an opportunity to free yourself from everything in conflict with the life you want to create.  Forgiving yourself and others is the only way to escape the past, because holding on to something that is dead makes it impossible to live in the present.  Stop standing still while wondering why you’re not moving forward.  Give yourself permission to heal and begin living life as you should, purposefully.