Bored, Lonely and Horny
As we settle in to the physical restrictions of this pandemic, it’s been hilarious to observe how the psychological distress is beginning to manifest itself. First of all, my social media friend requests and direct messages have been out of control. If I needed outside validation to feel beautiful, I’d be floating on cloud nine all day. I really don’t think I’ve ever received so many compliments from complete strangers, men and women, on a daily basis. Then there are the exes who are slithering out of nowhere just to make sure I’m safe and have everything I need. I made the mistake of being courteous and replying to one, knowing I shouldn’t have. Now I’m ignoring repeated messages, “just checking in again to make sure you’re good and don’t need me drop anything off for you.” In my head I’m screaming, “are you not under quarantine like the rest of the world?!”
Sisters, I’m sure that you’re all experiencing the same nonsense because there are a lot of bored people out there. Do not allow being lonely, horny or bored to cloud your judgement right now! When he asks you to send him a picture, remind him of the variety of options available on your public page. When that ex comes calling, remember that he’s an ex for a reason. Yes, I know it’s hard. You desperately need a mani-pedi, you’ve been wearing the bonnet longer than you’re willing to admit and sweats have become your daily uniform. Here he comes telling you how sexy you are and reminding you of that night ya’ll had 12 Play on repeat. You’re ignoring him and he’s still trying. Next thing you know, you’re thinking how sweet it is that he’s so concerned. He must think you’re worth the effort because he continues trying despite you not responding. It must be genuine, right? Sis, I promise you it’s not. That man is only looking for a chef and convenient punani to ride out this pandemic more comfortably. Do you really want to be a temporary solution for someone else’s loneliness?
The best thing you can do during this time is to focus on your emotional and physical well-being. Figure out how to improve your emotional connections, what brings you joy and do more of those things. While it’s perfectly normal to feel lonely, bored and even horny while isolated, don’t set yourself up for certain heartbreak by revisiting closed chapters. Thank him for his concern, stock up on batteries and keep it moving. I promise you that this too shall pass.